From my own experiential bias, the idea that it's a conspiracy/lie that men want more sex seems to have come from well-meaning/intentioned equality enthusiasts (who seem to lean on "we are the same" instead of "we deserve the same rights/considerations"), but perpetuated by many who benefit from women thinking we should/need to be less "stuck up" -- I'm thinking of Bridget Phetasy's piece "I regret being a slut" is a great exploration of that and is very relatable.
Personally, and again with the bias, I think what is a myth is that men won't ever turn down sex/will have sex with whoever. I definitely internalized that and as a result being turned down resulted in profound self esteem crises.
Also, if you're unfamiliar with the Coolidge effect the anecdote is a good summation of the variability preference but still acknowledges the female sex drive, since it's about a dissatisfied woman who wants more sex with her husband.
Since you asked. I thought the question was thoughtfully answered but I feel that these types of questions are not something you’d ask a dating coach. Who cares if men in general do or don’t want sex more, what matters is the man in front of you. I encourage all women to embrace and work on being sexy...not just for men but for themselves. There is sex and there is seduction...both can be fun to master.
The immediate response I have to your statement that you used AI to find an image of "man and woman partially nude” is annoyance. The man is partially nude - the woman is fully nude. This is annoying on so many levels.
Stumbled on this on The Atlantic last night: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/ - also seems to indicate that women lose interest in sex more than men.
From my own experiential bias, the idea that it's a conspiracy/lie that men want more sex seems to have come from well-meaning/intentioned equality enthusiasts (who seem to lean on "we are the same" instead of "we deserve the same rights/considerations"), but perpetuated by many who benefit from women thinking we should/need to be less "stuck up" -- I'm thinking of Bridget Phetasy's piece "I regret being a slut" is a great exploration of that and is very relatable.
Personally, and again with the bias, I think what is a myth is that men won't ever turn down sex/will have sex with whoever. I definitely internalized that and as a result being turned down resulted in profound self esteem crises.
Also, if you're unfamiliar with the Coolidge effect the anecdote is a good summation of the variability preference but still acknowledges the female sex drive, since it's about a dissatisfied woman who wants more sex with her husband.
Love this comment, Monia. Anything that helps me learn. And yes, I do know Phetasy's piece. There's a lot here. Thanks for helping make sense of it.
The Coolidge effect! The Science of Sex recently wrote about this. So good!! Recommend that column for sure
https://open.substack.com/pub/thescienceofsex/p/the-coolidge-effect-why-passion-wanes?r=h77qf&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post
Since you asked. I thought the question was thoughtfully answered but I feel that these types of questions are not something you’d ask a dating coach. Who cares if men in general do or don’t want sex more, what matters is the man in front of you. I encourage all women to embrace and work on being sexy...not just for men but for themselves. There is sex and there is seduction...both can be fun to master.
The woman also has “man hands” and “man forearms.” Lol
Kind of wish people would comment about the content rather than the AI image, but, oh well...
The immediate response I have to your statement that you used AI to find an image of "man and woman partially nude” is annoyance. The man is partially nude - the woman is fully nude. This is annoying on so many levels.
This is exactly what I noted in the caption: that artificial intelligence also favors the male gaze. Sorry if that was unclear.
I think Evan meant both were to be partially nude but the AI didn’t get the memo. I find this funny.
This is correct.