I'm a political consultant and was having dinner with a few colleagues last week observing that like 90% of our politics is really about how the role of women changed more in the past 50 years than the prior 5000. And mostly very much for the good. But you can't make that big a change without upheaval, and it plays out everywhere.
Love this one Evan. We’ve discussed it many times in coaching but this article is such a great reminder for me and all of us ladies to find the balance.
>Ultimately, we all have to make tradeoffs to determine what qualities you need in a partner. The thing is: most people don’t want to make any tradeoffs.
An astute point that goes both ways as well. In case you're one of those guys who wants your future wife to be super intelligent and successful but also kind, nurturing, supportive, agrees with you politically on everything and wants the same number of kids, has no physical or mental health issues with a totally well-adjusted family of origin, and oh yeah, also have a supermodel face and body with a naturally high sex drive and who also thinks there's nothing hotter in a guy than having an encyclopedic knowledge of anime and video games and...
...you get the idea.
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And as many of your female commenters have pointed out on similar posts, because of the...shall we say, mild differences of being a woman vs. being a man throughout history, the reality is that there will be unavoidable subtext in asking a woman to "sand off her rough edges" that wouldn't exist if one gave a man the same advice. Telling a man to be more masculine and less needy to attract a woman isn't inherently political, but in our cultural zeitgeist, telling a woman to be more feminine and less "alpha" to attract a man would be.
Which I guess you already know, since you wrote this post, but it was something that certainly made me think.
I'm a political consultant and was having dinner with a few colleagues last week observing that like 90% of our politics is really about how the role of women changed more in the past 50 years than the prior 5000. And mostly very much for the good. But you can't make that big a change without upheaval, and it plays out everywhere.
Love this one Evan. We’ve discussed it many times in coaching but this article is such a great reminder for me and all of us ladies to find the balance.
-Sara
>Ultimately, we all have to make tradeoffs to determine what qualities you need in a partner. The thing is: most people don’t want to make any tradeoffs.
An astute point that goes both ways as well. In case you're one of those guys who wants your future wife to be super intelligent and successful but also kind, nurturing, supportive, agrees with you politically on everything and wants the same number of kids, has no physical or mental health issues with a totally well-adjusted family of origin, and oh yeah, also have a supermodel face and body with a naturally high sex drive and who also thinks there's nothing hotter in a guy than having an encyclopedic knowledge of anime and video games and...
...you get the idea.
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And as many of your female commenters have pointed out on similar posts, because of the...shall we say, mild differences of being a woman vs. being a man throughout history, the reality is that there will be unavoidable subtext in asking a woman to "sand off her rough edges" that wouldn't exist if one gave a man the same advice. Telling a man to be more masculine and less needy to attract a woman isn't inherently political, but in our cultural zeitgeist, telling a woman to be more feminine and less "alpha" to attract a man would be.
Which I guess you already know, since you wrote this post, but it was something that certainly made me think.
Excellent post! Wisdom all the way. Thank you. Signed, soon to be author of the new book called ‘Men are the New Women’.
I hear you and in my 6 months of dating I find very few quality attractive men. Infact I am out in real life all the time and no one is single!