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Karin Manley's avatar

This piece is really insightful! As a woman dating online, this is a helpful reminder to keep in mind the real people on the other side of the screen, who are also playing this game against the algorithms.

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Evan Marc Katz's avatar

Thank you. Women’s online dating experience is just as harrowing, but it doesn’t negate what men go through. We could all stand to be a little more understanding.

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Shari's avatar

I really enjoyed reading this today, Evan. It makes me feel some level of understanding for men. I would not have wanted to swipe Yes on my most recent guy because he let his goatee go white and I neither like grey/white nor facial hair. I would likely have forced myself to give him a Yes just because his profile may have seemed lucid. He probably would not have replied because he just went for a run instead of checking his dating app. This was an imaginary dating app scenario but the man is real. So I can go forward reminding myself that real men, real humans are usually on the other side of this flawed process. And at a minimum, men on apps usually say what they are hoping for in a relationship. It's a start. Thank you ❤️

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Evan Marc Katz's avatar

If you can get a date per week without online dating, go ahead. I don’t know anyone who can.

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