Thought provoking and a lot of truth here. Navigating this in real life is so difficult but necessary. Thanks Evan for delving into a little discussed topic and providing insight from a male perspective.
Thinking about this a lot and figuring out what it is I need more out of my marriage. We have some things screwed up because of feminism and independence and our supposed roles in the family. Having children changed everything too. O don’t feel the trust that he can lead me where I want to go and I’d like to figure out how to get to be better partners to each other to get that trust and a good rhythm together. Or to know if it’s not going to happen and then see what’s next.
Thanks. Just practicing and discovering what exactly it is that’s been bothering me. This made some sense. I will gather my courage and start the conversation.
It is all well and good but what we need to put ourselves first, there is no guarantee that this Prince Charming will show up. I just didn’t like the tone of most texts “we need a guy but we (women) don’t want to admit”. When you operate a position of “lack” I reckon you won’t attract a quality person...
Point taken. Another POV is that if you bask in your independence and don’t make consistent time to date, you DEFINITELY won’t meet your person. A: admit you’re lonely and want a partner, go on a date per week, and come from a place of confidence and abundance that there are always more men.
Yes I totally get what you are saying. I can admit that I want someone but are guys really looking for serious relationship or even marriage? Let’s be honest - most guys around my age are already leaving marriages with children. So after an expensive divorce, heartbreak and psychological damage why any guy would start all over again? Whilst I was on Tinder the level of negativity is unreal... you might argue that switching to a paid site would be any different/ don’t know. I am saying this as the last guy that I dated was divorced after lockdown but clearly mislead me on his intentions/ deep inside he just wanted to have a fling. Also the external judgement that because I have never married or did not have children is a reflection of me as a woman.
I don’t know if I can find so many eligible daters to go on a date lol. I live around North West of England very different from the excitement and craziness of London where I was for 16 years (also big cities equal more singles) so I can not just go for any guy that wants a date. Mind you I was on most of dating apps for on and off since 2014 - dating fatigue lol!
Thought provoking and a lot of truth here. Navigating this in real life is so difficult but necessary. Thanks Evan for delving into a little discussed topic and providing insight from a male perspective.
Excellent article! It is exactly what most of us want and hopefully can work towards. Thanks again
Thinking about this a lot and figuring out what it is I need more out of my marriage. We have some things screwed up because of feminism and independence and our supposed roles in the family. Having children changed everything too. O don’t feel the trust that he can lead me where I want to go and I’d like to figure out how to get to be better partners to each other to get that trust and a good rhythm together. Or to know if it’s not going to happen and then see what’s next.
Maybe say this to him?
Thanks. Just practicing and discovering what exactly it is that’s been bothering me. This made some sense. I will gather my courage and start the conversation.
Also, pick up Kiss Your Fights Goodbye. It’s a game changer.
It is all well and good but what we need to put ourselves first, there is no guarantee that this Prince Charming will show up. I just didn’t like the tone of most texts “we need a guy but we (women) don’t want to admit”. When you operate a position of “lack” I reckon you won’t attract a quality person...
Point taken. Another POV is that if you bask in your independence and don’t make consistent time to date, you DEFINITELY won’t meet your person. A: admit you’re lonely and want a partner, go on a date per week, and come from a place of confidence and abundance that there are always more men.
Yes I totally get what you are saying. I can admit that I want someone but are guys really looking for serious relationship or even marriage? Let’s be honest - most guys around my age are already leaving marriages with children. So after an expensive divorce, heartbreak and psychological damage why any guy would start all over again? Whilst I was on Tinder the level of negativity is unreal... you might argue that switching to a paid site would be any different/ don’t know. I am saying this as the last guy that I dated was divorced after lockdown but clearly mislead me on his intentions/ deep inside he just wanted to have a fling. Also the external judgement that because I have never married or did not have children is a reflection of me as a woman.
I don’t know if I can find so many eligible daters to go on a date lol. I live around North West of England very different from the excitement and craziness of London where I was for 16 years (also big cities equal more singles) so I can not just go for any guy that wants a date. Mind you I was on most of dating apps for on and off since 2014 - dating fatigue lol!
Yes, men look to get remarried - at a higher rate than women.