I felt that way much of my life Evan. I had always said that I had never failed at anything I really wanted to do. Then I had to make the decision to stop working on finishing my PhD just after finishing all my coursework with an almost perfect GPA. I was supposed to schedule my oral prelim and pay thousands of dollars for dissertation credits. I just knew I was wasting my time and money. And had I kept going, I would not have been able to be the kind of Mom I wanted to be. I couldn't have earned the income I wanted to earn. Then never mind work and grad school, I had to admit I was wasting my time on a terrible relationship. So first I shook the crumbs off the tablecloth. Then I learned what I needed to do to make things happen. My life is better BOTH because I learned to stop spending time on the wrong things AND because I learned how to reach out for and accept the right things. You taught me so much of this Evan. Next what doesn't work ❤️Accept and appreciate and receive what works! I don't have the holy grail yet Evan 😉but thanks to you I know what it is for me. I hope you can feel the same joy that you coach us to find 🙏🏻✨Namaste!
Just getting around to reading this now. I hope you had a great holiday season. I write in my gratitude journal every morning. Still working on me . Looking forward to continuing this crazy dating journey with you by my side. I wish I had submitted a video to you for a chance to receive the Love U scholarship, but alas, I just said no to someone this morning. 😢 happy new year Evan
This is just beautiful! And I am so happy for you. I saw you on Dominique Sachse's podcast and have been getting your emails ever since. You have made me realize that I DON'T want a long-term committed relationship at this time, I am happy with the one I have, which is all over the place. I think I was under the impression that I was supposed to be in/want something different and your advice had made me see the cheese, not the holes in where I am now! So thank you very much. I wish you a wonderful vacation, a happy New Year and a joyous life. Thanks for all you do. (And yes, I agree with Namra tha there is probably a lot more in you than you are expressing)
I feel like there is something you would like to write about other than dating and relationships (which is not to say you are not wonderful at what you do).
I hope you will. You couldn’t do what you do, or be a former comedy writer, if you were not a keen observer of human beings, and I would bet your work as a dating coach has given you a very interesting perspective on how people communicate and respond to fear. I would be fascinated to read what you have to say on a number of issues going on in our world right now, and I’m sure other readers (or outlets) would feel the same. Wishing you good things in 2024!
I absolutely love this, real, authentic and I can totally relate. It is my life/world as well. I will stop and appreciate what I have already accomplished as well. Thank you Evan. I look forward to working with you.
Evan, as always, your messages are inspiring and challenge us to put things into perspective. I, too, spend way too much time lamenting about the things that are not perfect in my life, especially my “lack of” love life, when I should be focusing on how hard I have been working on assessing myself and learning from my past mistakes. May the new year bring us all the courage and strength to keep going, embracing all the things we can’t control and finding beauty in them regardless. Much love to you and your family!
I, too, constantly feel like I’m not living up to my potential. I think being perpetually dissatisfied is part of what drives us to achieve what we have in life. So there are certainly benefits.
Maybe it’s the fact that I’m turning 50 next year, maybe it’s that I’ve found my forever love, but I’m starting to get better at enjoying what I have and not focusing on what I don’t. It’s certainly a more pleasant way to live. ❤️
Evan, it sounds like you have a tremendous amount to be grateful for. And we're grateful to you for sharing the perspective you've gained from the life you've been able to live. Have a happy new year.
My gratitude journal helps. Pick one up at IntelligentChange.com
I felt that way much of my life Evan. I had always said that I had never failed at anything I really wanted to do. Then I had to make the decision to stop working on finishing my PhD just after finishing all my coursework with an almost perfect GPA. I was supposed to schedule my oral prelim and pay thousands of dollars for dissertation credits. I just knew I was wasting my time and money. And had I kept going, I would not have been able to be the kind of Mom I wanted to be. I couldn't have earned the income I wanted to earn. Then never mind work and grad school, I had to admit I was wasting my time on a terrible relationship. So first I shook the crumbs off the tablecloth. Then I learned what I needed to do to make things happen. My life is better BOTH because I learned to stop spending time on the wrong things AND because I learned how to reach out for and accept the right things. You taught me so much of this Evan. Next what doesn't work ❤️Accept and appreciate and receive what works! I don't have the holy grail yet Evan 😉but thanks to you I know what it is for me. I hope you can feel the same joy that you coach us to find 🙏🏻✨Namaste!
Just getting around to reading this now. I hope you had a great holiday season. I write in my gratitude journal every morning. Still working on me . Looking forward to continuing this crazy dating journey with you by my side. I wish I had submitted a video to you for a chance to receive the Love U scholarship, but alas, I just said no to someone this morning. 😢 happy new year Evan
This is just beautiful! And I am so happy for you. I saw you on Dominique Sachse's podcast and have been getting your emails ever since. You have made me realize that I DON'T want a long-term committed relationship at this time, I am happy with the one I have, which is all over the place. I think I was under the impression that I was supposed to be in/want something different and your advice had made me see the cheese, not the holes in where I am now! So thank you very much. I wish you a wonderful vacation, a happy New Year and a joyous life. Thanks for all you do. (And yes, I agree with Namra tha there is probably a lot more in you than you are expressing)
Clarity is so important. There’s no one way to be happy. Just make sure your actions are aligned with your goals! Appreciate the kind words.
The perfect message to wake up to on my 60th birthday. Thank you. 😀
Happy birthday 🎊🎂🎉
I feel like there is something you would like to write about other than dating and relationships (which is not to say you are not wonderful at what you do).
You are 100% correct. 👍🏼
I hope you will. You couldn’t do what you do, or be a former comedy writer, if you were not a keen observer of human beings, and I would bet your work as a dating coach has given you a very interesting perspective on how people communicate and respond to fear. I would be fascinated to read what you have to say on a number of issues going on in our world right now, and I’m sure other readers (or outlets) would feel the same. Wishing you good things in 2024!
I absolutely love this, real, authentic and I can totally relate. It is my life/world as well. I will stop and appreciate what I have already accomplished as well. Thank you Evan. I look forward to working with you.
Thank you. I look forward to it as well!
Evan, as always, your messages are inspiring and challenge us to put things into perspective. I, too, spend way too much time lamenting about the things that are not perfect in my life, especially my “lack of” love life, when I should be focusing on how hard I have been working on assessing myself and learning from my past mistakes. May the new year bring us all the courage and strength to keep going, embracing all the things we can’t control and finding beauty in them regardless. Much love to you and your family!
Thank you. 🙏
Such wise words especially now with the world in such chaos and hate. We can control our love and gratitude and where we put our energy
I choose to be thankful and support love in all its forms.
Susan
Thank you.
I, too, constantly feel like I’m not living up to my potential. I think being perpetually dissatisfied is part of what drives us to achieve what we have in life. So there are certainly benefits.
Maybe it’s the fact that I’m turning 50 next year, maybe it’s that I’ve found my forever love, but I’m starting to get better at enjoying what I have and not focusing on what I don’t. It’s certainly a more pleasant way to live. ❤️
Agreed, my friend. Happy for both of us.
Evan, it sounds like you have a tremendous amount to be grateful for. And we're grateful to you for sharing the perspective you've gained from the life you've been able to live. Have a happy new year.
I do. I think gratitude is a practice- and I am practicing.